Ticola Story
Where do I start? I was so frustrated with my life—nothing seemed to go right. I was exhausted from the constant set backs and feeling like the foundation beneath me was always crumbling. I started to believe that either I was incredibly unlucky or incompetent. My confidence was shattered and I was deeply dissatisfied with my life. I felt trapped in an endless cycle of trying, only to end up back at square one.
One day, I woke up and I knew I was exhausted and depressed. No matter how hard I tried to focus or work, it seemed like something was pushing against my progress. I kept hitting walls I couldn’t climb or at dead ends that I couldn't bypass. I felt trapped in a life I didn't love -- overworked, overwhelmed, and undervalued.
I felt perpetually drained and stuck; this eventually led me to a place of deep despair. I lost all hope of ever creating the life I truly desired. I knew I had to change something, but I had no idea how to begin my process of transformation.
Everything began to shift when I recognized that I had the power within me all along to change my life. And it was this realization that ultimately led to the creation of True North Life Design. Through this program, I want to guide you through the same transformation I experienced, helping you step into your purpose, reclaim your confidence, and design the life you were always meant to live.
The Turning Point....
My Transformation began after I hit my lowest state, it was a do or die state of existence that forced me to finally confront my disempowering, unproductive ways and take full accountability for my choices. I knew I had to stop searching for quick fixes and magic pills. I had to step off the treadmill of over activity, to thoroughly unpack who I had become. To take a deeper look at why I struggled to take my life in the direction I wanted. I invested in personal development seminars and life coaches to help me see the parts of myself that were driving my behaviors, attitudes, and beliefs that blocked my success.
With the help of a life coach, I became committed to my personal growth in a way I never had before. Having a different set of eyes on my life and an accountability partner really made the difference. Over time, I developed a stronger, more positive mindset. My clarity and confidence increased, it became clear to me what decisions to make and what paths to take. My quality of life improved exponentially as my self-awareness, self- confidence, and self-value grew.
With increased growth, the path of happiness, fulfillment, and success was within sight, and this motivated me even more to stay connected to this growth path. I committed to this simple growth strategy to keep me on track, so that every choice I made would support my newly discovered alignment. In time, I watched the old, depressed, exhausted, achievement-driven person disappear as the new, energized, purpose-driven, conscious Life Designer™️ emerged.
My Story
I had many challenging hills to climb. My marriage was in jeopardy. My finances were a hot mess. For ten years I stayed home to raise my five children. I was entirely dependent upon my husband, and I was disappointed with the life we had created together. I felt stuck. I needed a path out of the psychological rut brought on by my day-to-day routine, which consisted of preparing meals, housekeeping, anticipating the needs of a husband and five stair-step children, all two years apart.
I did my best with what I had, but the weight of family life was crushing my dreams. My response was to separate from my husband. Only this created another challenge: being a single mother. Being a single mother was my number one fear. Prioritizing my role of mother over a career woman was a no-brainer when I was in a loving marriage, but not after the marriage fell apart. The idea of having five step-children in a world that was so demanding was blowing my mind. How did I let this happen to my life? I had to figure this out and fast, or the lingering depression was sure to hit the shores of my life like a tsunami.
My life was in chaos because of my mindset and the deeply held limiting beliefs I had about myself. At the time, I couldn't see how I contributed to how my life turned out. I blamed it on the bad hand I was dealt in life. Life was happening to me, not because of me. I found it very difficult to take full accountability for my life and my choices. According to my belief about life bad things happen to bad people and goofd things happen to good people and I was a "good person". I was doing life the "right way". I didn't understand that was a child-like way of thinking about life. Life was a bit more sophisticated than that. Eventually, I had to accept that I was the only reason my life was not working; I was the common denominator.
I had marital problems that I didn't know how to solve, so I took a couple of seminars on relationships. I had problems with my finances that I didn't know how to improve, so I took workshops in money management. I had no idea how I would enter into a new career path while parenting my five children, but I knew I had to do it. So, I found a way. All of this effort required sacrifice and discipline on my part. It required me to be committed to an intentional climb out of my circumstances, rather than a quick fix. I successfully found a workable solution to every problem in my life. Each good outcome motivated me to want to grow even more.
I sacrificed frivolous spending on coffee and eating out. This helped me to save money and invest in advanced educational training in New York, Chicago, Miami, and California with elite color educators. As my skills and understanding of the industry increased, I began to get noticed. I began to do weekly makeovers on local news stations. I was featured in local magazines and often quoted in the Baltimore Sun newspaper for my expertise as a Master Colorist. I was stoked, finally, I was creating the type of success in my life that I knew I was capable of creating.
II transformed my marriage into a functional parental partnership that allowed our children to adapt well to our decision to divorce. We are committed to being amicable to the common goal of the family.
I stabilized my finances and established a healthy relationship with money that provided my family with security and a better quality of life. My children developed beautifully, my money increased exponentially, my career took off, and my children's father and I learned to be better in parental partnership than in marriage.
The Road to Transformation
"For a long time, I was experiencing ease and flow created by my focus on hard work. I was achieving success in key areas of my life, yet a persistent feeling of dissatisfaction and unfulfillment lingered. I learned to recognize that blaming external circumstances wasn't the answer. I understood the importance of personal responsibility, and every time I examined the important areas of my life, my relationships, career, finances, family, and personal development, things were good, a solid six out of ten or higher.
But there was this undeniable pull, a sense of longing for something more profound. I intuitively knew it wasn't about acquiring more possessions. I'd already experienced the fleeting satisfaction of fancy cars, nice vacations, and hobnobbing with the Joneses. Something deeper was missing, but at this point I was so burned-out and lost. I thought I was on the path toward true happiness and fulfillment. I had worked tirelessly to create success. I had achieved everything on paper, yet I felt completely lost on the inside. I found myself back in another cycle of hopelessness and depression. I was done. Completely exhausted and the demands of my busy life didn't let up. There was no time for me to figure this all out. Meanwhile I'm in a second longterm relationship just as lost as I was in the first one. How did I let this happen again. Once again I found myself misaligned. I intuitively understood that I didn’t need another productivity or life hack, I needed something more
At the peak of my exhaustion, I heard a whisper—"This isn’t the life you were meant to live". I knew at this moment I had to slow things down, I had to make whatever sacrifice I need to make to get the clarity I need. The moment I got silent I was able to realized that what was missing was a more profound connection -- not just with others but fundamentally with myself. I realized that no matter how much I tried to make my life more full with stuff, nothing would fulfill it because this call was coming from beyond what the material world could provide. This call came from deep within. I understood that no external acquisition could ever truly satisfy this internal calling. It was a call for clarity, for authentic self-expression, for meaning, significance, and the full embodiment of my purpose and potential.
I recognized that my unique perspective, that 'something different' about me, was intrinsically linked to my purpose, and I could no longer ignore its persistent call anymore. So, I embarked on a personal journey to awaken the dormant aspects of myself. My lifelong passion for studying the human condition, diverse cultures, spiritual traditions, and various coaching methodologies became my compass. I synthesized the most effective practices from these explorations and forged my own path forward – a journey I initially called 'Operation Self-Actualization.' That whisper became a path. That path became a process. That process became a promise: No woman should have to walk back to herself alone
True North Life Design was born from that promise. —a living culture that helps women make a heart-centered paradigm shift guiding them from burnout to breakthrough, from life-negative to life-positive, from self-doubt to soul-deep confidence; from merely making things happen to creating with intentional purpose, from superficial interactions to cultivating deep, authentic connections and generating genuine impact. It's about transcending the role of problem-solver and stepping into the power of being a conscious creator with profound clarity about her role, purpose, and the unique value and impact she can bring to every situation.
Now, my life is rich with meaning. The one element I now deeply desire is my tribe – a community of conscious, caring women who resonate with this mindset and are ready to embrace this radical shift in consciousness together. There is an unparalleled strength and joy in walking this path alongside your sisters. When a woman heals, she doesn’t just transform her life—she transforms her lineage. Sisterhood is the soil where self-actualization grows.
My heartfelt hope is that you will join me.
Much of my own transformation and success has been fueled by an unwavering commitment to excellence, one of my core values. I am deeply dedicated to bringing that same excellence to my life coaching practice. While I work with individuals from all walks of life, I have a particular passion for empowering women. I believe that the increasing demands on women in modern society have led to significant overwhelm and a diminished sense of their profound worth and power. I feel that the cultivation of feminine power is crucial for bringing healing and balance to our society, our workplaces, and our relationships. My mission is to guide women who may have never been taught how to fully inhabit their power, so they can bring healing, connection, brilliance, radiance, and love to their families and communities."